Geek vs. solitude: setting and managing life goals
Welcome to geek and lonely, and we talk about problems, problems, stress and needs every week, and these issues sometimes affect us sometimes even a lot of people. We tried to think of some ideas that might be our own, but as we’ve always said, we’re not – bad luck – there’s any magic elixir in our cupboard.
This week, we welcome Sarah Myers, the wonderful Sarah Myers who will take over from here. She wanted to talk about how she found that setting often very small goals helped her. Hopefully there’s something here that can help you, or someone you know.
End to Sarah…
I just washed the bowl! Can I get a medal?
Ok, so I didn’t really win the gold medal at the Olympics, but it was a big deal for me. Why is that? Because I got up, got dressed, did something productive – it was rare for me.
I suffer from serious mental health problems like I do, not a picnic. I don’t have a clear diagnosis at the moment, the days seem to go on forever, the idea of “doing things” is overwhelming.
Why you can leave today until next week, right?
However, I always dream of fulfilling these life goals. I want to lose weight, meet someone getting married, have a baby, live in a nice house where I buy and pay. But that means getting up, going out, mentally, physically and emotionally putting yourself there.
Not at all. No, thanks. I just stay in bed with my cat, my cup of tea and a book. It’s safe here.
By logic, I could step back and see what happened.
My mental health drained me of my motivation. My lack of motivation inspired procrastination. My procrastination means that my goals have never been met. The goal of my abandonment is to harm my mental health, because I feel like I’m a failure and go back to the beginning. Again, again and again.
It took me a long time to know where I went wrong.
I set too many goals for life, set too high a goal, set goals for others, and strive to achieve them. It’s like trying a cycling tour DE France, learning cantonese, playing the oboe.
Not the smartest idea.
So, I decided to turn my goals into smaller tasks.
Want a clean home? Write down every personal item that you need to do with your paper, throw it in a bathtub, pick one, like a Tombola. The washing may take thirty minutes. It takes five minutes to empty the trash. Organize and organize your bedroom for an hour.
You can do one task every day. Two days. Three weeks. it doesn’t matter In fact, every little task is to achieve the ultimate goal.
Yes, a million pieces of paper may seem drastic, but you just need to focus on one small thing.
Easier said than done. I know better than anyone.
But I also know that I feel better after eating. That little sense of accomplishment gave me a little motivation. So maybe I’ll tackle the cat litter box next. Then, I’ll wash some clothes. Tomorrow, maybe I’ll clean the living room window.
It applies to anything.
I participated in the life competition in June. No running – no, no. On foot. But it’s something I can do. I still plan to do some training, but not too much. I’m not Mo Farah. I just need to know that I can walk 5K without crashing. It will help my health.
I will continue to work on my first short vacation in July. In Brighton, I already have a place to visit, and I plan to hit at least one tourist attraction every day. There’s not much tax. And it’s just a weekend trip, so I won’t leave my comfort zone for too long. My three-month dream in the United States can wait until I know I can take some short breaks on the beach.
That’s the point.
No one would say that the goal must be a huge life-changing event, or that you must achieve your goal at one stroke. Smaller tasks increase overall ultimate goals, and the sense of accomplishment gained from a simple act increases your motivation. “I did it!
Whether it’s running a marathon or shopping, your goal is your goal. So why not break them down and make them easier to manage?
You don’t have to go fast, you don’t have to go far, little turtle. You just have to go.